While sometimes divorce seems like the only solution, often it is not. After the divorce or legal separation process commences, you may decide to try to work things out in your relationship. If you decide to drop the litigation, you will pay only for those services actually performed and costs actually accrued up to that time. The balance of the retainer will be refunded. Sometimes, people want to try to work things out without abandoning the divorce process until they are sure they have figured things out. Some courts will (and others will not) allow you to place your process into “abeyance” while you attempt reconciliation. Abeyance is a state of temporary disuse or suspension.